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June 10, 2010: Watch Tonja speak on It's Your Call with Lynn Doyle on Comcast Network & Retirement Living TV, Philadelphia.

June 21, 2010: Tonja talks to Guy & Melissa on Sacramento & Company, KXTV/ABC, News10.  See her interview, courtesy of Sacramento & Company.

June 23, 2010: See Tonja on San Diego Living, San Diego 6, courtesy of San Diego Living.

June 24, 2010: Watch Tonja's interview on Daybreak on the Deuce KWGN/KDVR Colorado, courtesy of Daybreak on the Deuce.

June 26, 2010: Tonja speaks with Dr. Anne Marie Evers about the Magic of Relationships, 12:30-1:00pm PST, on www.contacttalkradio.com

July 9, 2010: Tonja to appear on WXIN FOX59 & WTTV INDIANA'S 4, Indianapolis, 9:15am EST.

July 11, 2010: Tonja to appear on The Weekend Show, KTNV, Las Vegas, 6:50am PST.

July 12, 2010: See Tonja speak to Dao & Shawn on The Morning Blend, Channel 13, KTNV, Las Vegas, from 9-10am PST.

July 14, 2010: Tonja will be in Houston, Texas, on the CW Network, Channel 39's Outlook Houston, 1-2pm CST.

July 16, 2010: See Tonja on WKYC-TV in Cleveland, Ohio between 10-11am EST.

 

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Dating A Serial Cheater? How Serial Cheaters Can Seduce You

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Written by Tonja Monday, 12 January 2009 00:00

Serial cheaters are not always easy to spot. They are sincere, seductive, and charming. One woman I know met someone she instantly liked. After two dates, she was electrified. The chemistry was so intense she couldn’t see the cheating signs written on his forehead. Blinded by his charisma, she didn’t recognize that she was just one girl in a long succession of girls. When she discovered he was cheating on her with several other women he thought he was in love with too, she lamented, “All men cheat. I have never met one who didn’t.”

If you attract cheaters, it will help if you notice the patterns of behavior you both have BEFORE you get involved. He can’t operate alone. You are his accomplice. This statement is not meant to place blame, but rather, to help you understand that you don’t have to keep being a target. You do have control over your life. How does he seduce you?

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Does Your Ex Want Sex?

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Written by Tonja Monday, 05 January 2009 00:00

If your Ex wants to have sex with you, he may appear at your door at unexpected times. He may say that he forgot to pick something up when he moved out. He might suddenly begin to act nice and say all the things you wish he had said when you were together. He might even talk about how much he has changed and grown and how he wishes you could know him now. If you have children together, the issue of reconnecting becomes even more difficult, because as everyone knows, kids just want their parents to kiss and wake up.

But if your Ex wants sex, beware. Even though it would be easy to slip into your old routines, you would be crossing an invisible line that you would probably regret. Before you even consider getting into bed with him (or her), think about the following:

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Holiday Dating: Don't Be Frosty The Snowman

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Written by Tonja Monday, 29 December 2008 00:00

Would you like to be dating during the holidays? Like Frosty the Snowman, do you live without hugs, watch people at play all around you, and stand alone when everyone else goes home at night? Worst of all, do you worry that you will melt and disappear at the first sign of warmth?

The good news is that even if you are alone, you do not have to act like Frosty. In fact, the holidays are a perfect time to step out of your usual habits, haunts, and hide-a-ways and meet someone. Snowmen obviously do not have the choices that you do. So forget the Frosty routine of being stuck in the same place, doing the same things, getting the same results.

Let go of your attitude that there is nowhere to go, no one to meet, and nothing you can do about it. It’s not your appearance of an icy statue that needs melting, it’s your frozen outlook, cold and indifferent to what your soul longs for.

Let’s get your Frosty self ready for love. Follow these steps:

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Holidays Without A Date: Advice On What To Do

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Written by Tonja Monday, 22 December 2008 00:00

As the holidays approach, do you find yourself feeling particularly vulnerable because you do not have a date? I get calls and emails from singles talking about the pain of being alone. Here is a letter from a reader describing how she feels:

Dear Tonja,

I am a 45-year-old divorced woman with one grown daughter. She is married and very busy with a baby. At this time of year, I get very upset because of how alone I am. I miss having someone in my life to share the holidays. What do you recommend for me to get through a very difficult time of the year?

Anxious and Lonely

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You'll Never Meet Someone - 5 Warning Signs That You Should Know

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Written by Tonja Monday, 15 December 2008 00:00

Do you worry that you will never meet someone? Have you tried to date, but nothing ever works out? There are warning signs that indicate you could continue to have problems. Do you know what they are?

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