Dating In Tough Times
Written by Tonja Monday, 08 March 2010 00:00
Are you finding it hard to date, or even to think about dating, in these tough economic times? Does a movie and dinner sound like it would break the bank? Maybe it’s time we take a lesson from the page of those who went before us.
My mother grew up in Oklahoma during the Depression. That experience branded her with what her children thought were some strange ways. She never threw anything away, all leftovers had to be eaten before anything new would be cooked, and all clothes were homemade…by her. She gardened; she canned; she pickled. She sold Avon, encyclopedias, Tupperware, dresses from catalogues, and anything else that would make a little money. If people saw my mother coming down the street they would duck and run because they knew—Alma Evetts was going to sell them something. I guess if you grow up barefoot, picking cotton, and riding a mule to school with your three brothers, there isn’t much you can’t do to earn an honest dollar.
And that’s kind of what this economy is coming down to for everyone: thrift, perseverance, and determination.
On Being Yourself
Written by Tonja Monday, 01 March 2010 00:00
Turn on any channel of the TV or open a tabloid magazine and you can see people who are trying to be something…or anything… other than who they are. We know they are often not the image they project since we have seen so many of their lives play out into tragedy. They have a certain glamour to convey, and who lives under the gloss is anyone’s guess. But instead of shining the spotlight on the characters in the media, the lesson for all of us is probably to turn the spotlight within. Forget the Hollywood red carpet. Who is standing on the carpet in your life? When you look in the mirror, do you like the person you see?
Within the universal Law of Attraction is a well-known fact: you attract who you are. If you are trying to be someone else, and are uncomfortable in your identity, chances are strong that you will meet someone with this same condition. In order to get aligned with your goal of meeting someone wonderful, here are some ideas to launch you on the path to finding more of yourself:
Communication Skills Required
Written by Tonja Monday, 22 February 2010 00:00
Are you looking to apply for the position of having more fun, more social life, and more people asking you out this spring? Would you like to succeed beyond your wildest dreams? If you are preparing yourself for a great dating career, remember: communication skills are required. You may need to hone those skills, however, because in today’s world…you want to be presenting your best self.
To begin with, you need to understand how people perceive you when you interact with them. In turn, you also want to be able to hear, read, and absorb what others are saying to you. You may have habits, behaviors, or signals that you are unaware of that send the opposite message of what you want to say. If you’re out of touch with what you are unintentionally communicating, chances are, you may not be receiving the messages of others clearly either.
Here are some tips to help make your life easier. I’ve identified these communication forms with a distinct title to describe the condition you want to avoid and how to reframe it to suit your goals.
Finding A Great Quarter Horse Is Like Finding A Great Date
Written by Tonja Monday, 15 February 2010 00:00
Have you asked yourself lately what you want? Often, when I ask coaching clients that question, they look a little lost and say, “I don’t really know. I don’t spend much time thinking about what I want—I’m too busy taking care of everyone else.”
After years of asking people what they want, I decided to ask myself that same question. Since I’ve already dated, found the drop dead fabulous guy and married him, and enjoy my purpose in life, what more is there? Then it hit me: having a great Quarter Horse, of course. These steps helped me get what I wanted. Maybe they can do the same for you in dating.
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Are You All Alone on Valentine’s Day?
Written by Tonja Monday, 08 February 2010 00:00
“When you’re in love you can’t fall asleep because reality is better than your dreams.”–Dr. Seuss
Who doesn’t want to be in love…especially on Valentine’s Day? The magic of meeting that special person and celebrating a holiday of romance is what every person who is single wistfully dreams of. But what do you do when you find yourself alone on Valentine’s Day? Do you feel depressed, think love is never going to happen for you, and resent the hearts and flowers on display that remind you of having no one to share your chocolates with? There’s a better way. Consider:
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