Six Weeks to Romance
Written by Tonja Monday, 19 April 2010 10:07
Since it takes 30 days to change an old habit, or build a new one, six weeks is plenty of time to turn your dating life around if you want to. How do you know if you need to start a six-week makeover? Answer the following questions:
* Are you happy with your dating life?
* Are you settling for someone now but don’t think he or she is the one?
* Would you really like to find your soul mate but you don’t know how?
* Do you believe the myth that there’s just “no one out there”?
If you answered yes to any of the above, consider the “six-weeks-to-romance” plan.
What To Do - Before a First Date
Written by Tonja Monday, 05 April 2010 00:00
Have you been getting online and meeting potential dates? Has one of your friends fixed you up with someone you’ve never met before? Or, did you meet someone when you were out with friends—and you’re about to go on a first date?
First dates can give you a little—or a lot of—anxiety. Here are some tips to help you be prepared and relaxed.
How to Rate your Dinner Date
Written by Tonja Monday, 29 March 2010 18:44
Going out to dinner on a first or second date can be a challenge. It’s hard to talk and look at someone you don’t know well while you’re both chewing and eating. Depending on what you order, there are other embarrassing risk factors, like, spinach or lettuce sticking to your teeth, giving you a smile that’s a little scary. If you order spaghetti, you may either need a tablecloth sized bib, or, have a polka dot splattered shirt by the end of the meal. And more than one person, nervous from dating someone new, has over indulged on liquid refreshments, blowing all chances of another date.
So why put yourself through this? A dinner date can also be an opportunity to observe some telling behavior. Your role is not to judge; your place is to pay attention to some of the personal characteristics of your date that may or may not work for you. What should you look for? Absolutely no one is perfect, but you might turn the radar up on the following:
The 5 Biggest Obstacles to Dating
Written by Tonja Monday, 22 March 2010 18:45
My job as a coach is about empowering singles to find the life and love they want. As I listen, watch, care, and remember the single’s struggle, I notice certain themes of behavior that crop up on a regular basis. Recognizing the signs of what many singles are doing and the messages they are telegraphing helps bring them the insight needed to break unproductive habits.
If you are not dating as much as you would like to, pay attention to some of the following. Here are the 5 BIG obstacles to dating:
Co-Dependent Love Relationships
Written by Tonja Monday, 15 March 2010 00:00
Do you have a history of going from one bad relationship to another? Do you think you are just unlucky in the love department? If you are someone who expects others to love you and give you what you want because you take care of them, luck…or a lack of it… has nothing to do with it. Attempting to earn the love of another by attending to their neediness, sadness, or misery is called co-dependency.
Needing to be needed usually causes you to attract and choose someone who is helpless, hopeless, and in a constant crisis— but can never give you what you want. The initial attraction may be intense: you recognize the person’s needs; your love interest recognizes the caretaker in you, and it feels like a perfect match on the surface. As the relationship progresses, however, and you move from one major problem to another, solving, fixing, and rescuing him or her becomes your permanent job. You may think that, surely, if you can handle this “one last” problem they present to you, you will be appreciated and finally be happy. But it never happens. Even if you eventually give up and leave this relationship, if you do not find your self, you will find another needy person.
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