Things I Noticed in 2010
Monday, 27 December 2010 00:00
Can it be…that another year has gone by this quickly? I was so caught up in having “Thriving After Divorce” published, then launched, then trotted out to the media that I barely had time to notice anything. A few weeks ago I sat down and thought about the voices, faces, and memories I have of the past year.Baby, All I Want for Christmas is You
Monday, 20 December 2010 00:00
Does Christmas have you singing the blues? Do you hate feeling alone at this time of year? Is there someone you think about and wonder what it would be like if you were still together? Were you young, stupid, and insecure… and sent him (or her) away because you didn’t know what you were doing? It happens.Instead of looking at what you don’t have this season, try looking for what you learned from past relationships…and let yourself be wiser, kinder, and more perceptive. Now is a good time to get ready for the gorgeous love that is out there waiting. You can discover it and you do deserve it, but before you can find that person —you might try unwrapping, discovering, and appreciating the gift that is you. Christmas would be a good time to do it.
When You’re Alone on Thanksgiving
Monday, 22 November 2010 14:14
When I was single and my children were little, they often spent Thanksgiving with their father’s family. As much as I wanted them to do that, and for them to know their families and their roots, I was clueless about how to take care of myself. I made a large calendar and pinned it to the wall, crossing off the days until they returned. The depth of my despair at being alone on the holidays was pitiful.
I suppose I felt I had no choices. My family lived on the other side of the country, I was so poor then I couldn’t breathe, and the only thing I knew how to do was shrink wrap myself until they came home and my family and work life resumed. I seemed to think I had nowhere to go.
If I could coach the girl I was then, here is what I would tell her.
What’s An Emotional Rollercoaster? The Holidays
Monday, 15 November 2010 00:00
Life can get frantic at this time of year. It’s not just the prepping and primping for the holidays, nor the scheduling, planning, shopping, or cooking. It’s the EMOTIONS that the holidays stir up in people that keep my phone and computer wires (w)ringing.Yes…holidays can be warm and happy times. All the ingredients are there for sharing food, gifts, parties, reunions, and unforgettable moments. But what some people tend to forget until it smacks them right in the heart is: the holidays can be a brewing cauldron of unresolved issues from the past. The Christmas happiness you didn’t have years ago; the person in the family who let you down; the romantic partner who is no longer in your life; … these are the kinds of memories that can suddenly resurge, flickering on and off like a call-waiting signal.
Five Steps to Get Ready for the Holidays When You're Single
Monday, 08 November 2010 00:00
What exactly ARE you doing for the holidays? It may sound too early to think about, but if you are single, you should not be without a plan. You have to prepare for what you want. This is how you not only survive— you thrive during the season.It’s easy to get isolated when you are single. But if you plan, you don’t have to be alone on the holidays—unless that idea sounds wonderful to you. If you would relish a few days of quiet time, reading a great book, taking walks, sleeping late, and watching movies, then plan for that. But if alone on the holidays sounds lonely on the holidays—take the steps necessary to change that.
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