Online Dating: 4 Reasons You Don’t Get Asked Out
Tuesday, 24 January 2012 21:22
I’ve met lots of attractive people who cannot seem to get connected with a good date online. They feel discouraged and even bitter about it. They say things, like, “Internet dating is NOT for me.” They think it’s the medium…rather than the message they are putting out there. I’ve come to understand that the WAY they are doing Internet dating is what is causing the problem. Because the truth is, there are millions and millions of people who are online every day looking for someone and not only do they find great dates…many of them find their soul mate. Here are the four main reasons you may not be getting the results you want:
1. Your Profile
Start off with a great headline that pulls people in. Then, say who you are, what you are looking for, and say it in a way that is clear and upbeat. Otherwise, your future partner can’t recognize that he or she belongs with you if you don’t identify yourself. Ask your friends to describe you. This will help you write about yourself.
2. Your Picture
You MUST have a good picture. Some people don’t believe they need one. Yes you do…even if you are well known in your community. And it needs to be current, flattering, showing your face, and not blurry. No driver’s license or passport photos. And don’t forget to smile. Again…ask your friends to help you choose good photos because it’s just amazing how most people don’t know what’s appropriate or appealing.
3. Your Strategy
What do you want out of online dating? Get very clear. If you want a long-term committed relationship, say so. If you say you just “want a friend” for casual dates, but you don’t really mean that, you are going to be disappointed when the person you are dating never wants to get serious. Also, make sure you truly are ready for a relationship if you say you are.
4. Your Site
Investigate which sites represent the type of person you are and the type of person you want to meet. Identify the interests, age group, culture, values, and spirituality that is important to you and that you want the person to have. Don’t waste your time on sites that are never going to be a match.
Somewhere in the above four reasons, you will find where you have not been clear and why you are not getting asked out.