MOVIN’ ON… AND INTO A NEW YEAR
Tuesday, 20 December 2011 15:20
And many of them spend a lot of time with the WHY factor. Why did he/she cheat on me? Why did she/he leave? Why didn’t he/she take care of me? Why did he/she have to be so mean? Why wasn’t she/he more responsible? Why am I so sad? Why did they do what they did? Why can’t I get on with my life?
If you have spent any time crying, sleeping late, feeling sick, and being totally lost…maybe you want to consider some of the following.
What about…
1. Getting a new life?
To create a new life – one in which you may have no experience for – you need an encouraging inner voice. Instead of telling yourself, “I’m too old to start over,” start saying, “I’m not too old for anything! Get out of bed and get moving!”
How about trying…
2. Making a list of 10 friends and relatives?
Call each of them and ask them what you mean to them. (Obviously, don’t call negative people.) This may sound silly…but you have no idea how much you need to hear different people’s perspective of how important you are to them. Write it down. Take it out and read it whenever you forget.
Why not start…
3. Cleaning out your closets?
De-clutter your house. This gives you energy. Iron your clothes, organize your shoes, belts, and scarves, and get yourself ready to go to work (even if you don’t feel like going to work…or if you don’t have a job, you’re going to work on your new life.)
Do you understand the necessity of…
4. Exercising?
Exercise helps reduce stress levels, sends good chemicals into your bloodstream, and can help you meet other people while you are out running…or at the gym. It’s also a good way to network with others. I know you don’t want to do it. Do it anyway.
It’s absolutely fundamental to your mental health to consider…
5. Gathering a support team.
Tell people you need help. Once you get out of bed, get dressed, and stop being embarrassed about your life and your needs, more and more people will step up to help you. Go to lunch, get introduced to people, and tell ten more people what you need to get through this hard time. Whether it’s a job, a social life, or a new place to live… get the phone lines humming.
If you can’t find your “place” in the world…how about…
6. Getting several jobs…until you find the right job… or purpose?
If you cannot find just one main job, organize your schedule to do several jobs. Example: work at an office for a group of doctors; cater special parties with your great cakes; and walk neighborhood dogs while you’re out jogging or walking. In the meantime, use these places to meet people and to network. If you are financially stable or well off, and don’t need to work, get involved in helping others. Working together with others on projects is where you get energy; energy is what makes you hopeful and attractive.
Can you be kind to yourself this season…and
7. Let the above build your confidence?
Here’s the deal: if you DO NOTHING…you will RECEIVE NOTHING…including not having ANY confidence. But if you get busy, you will begin to feel some excitement about life from discovering how to take care of your needs… and learning that you can do a good job at it.
Would you like to get your groove back? You can do it. Start moving into your new year by taking some new actions.