Nine Signs That Say He Loves You

Monday, 04 January 2010 00:00

Communication

He calls you often, wants to know what you’re doing, and shares his day’s activities.  When you ask about his plans for the evening, or the weekend, or even the whole summer, he doesn’t hedge or put you off.  He is open and forthcoming.

Exclusivity

When he only wants to see you, and does not give you the “space” talk, as in, “I need my space,” and is not craning his neck to watch other women walk by, you have his attention.  He willingly does not want to date other people.

 

No Conflicting Messages

He makes you his one and only love interest and does not send you conflicting messages.  He does not say things like, “I’m in love with you, you are my soul mate, I can’t live without you…AND…I saw my ex yesterday and I still have feelings for her.”  This kind of message will drive you crazy.  You will feel like a rubber ball attached to the paddle by a slim rubber string, batted back and forth.  The real message is: come here and go away.  You can’t win.  But if he loves you, you do not feel batted around.

Family and Friends

He makes plans to introduce you to his family and friends.  When you meet them, you realize they already know a lot about you because he has obviously talked about you.  Most of them (except the few jealous ones) are warm and friendly and genuinely excited for him that he has found happiness.

 

The Future

When he talks about his plans for the future, he automatically includes you in them.  He has places he wants to take you and sights he wants to show you.  He follows through on those plans.  He also mentions marriage and children, if only in an abstract way to evaluate your reaction.

 

Affirming

He speaks often of how proud he is of you.  He does this privately and publicly.  He thinks the work you do is the most important thing in the world and loves for you to tell him about what you accomplished during the day. He is happy to help you with your work in any way that he can.

 

Gifts

He has noticed what you like, admire, and read, and he brings you gifts that reflect on what he has noticed.  The quality of his gift shows the level of his perception as to what you like.  If he is rich, he may buy you jewels.  If he is not, he may send cards, flowers, or poems.  If he is not rich and he sends a Porsche or a diamond bracelet, he’s got some serious problems.  Have the grown up conversation with him about how you don’t like gifts he can’t afford.  That would be a very loving thing to do.

Touchy

Your guy may be the touchy type, which is not the hyper-thin-skinned poor sport, but the warm, huggy-bear type.  He may show his love and affection by holding your hand when you’re together, giving big long hugs, frequent kisses, and putting his arm around you.  His favorite date may be a movie at home so he can snuggle up with you.

 

Helpful

Another overt sign of love is how helpful he is.  When he does the grocery shopping, helps with meals and cleanup, helps you prepare a speech, or takes care of your car, he wants to be in your life!

 

To move these feelings along, and to better understand where he is, ask him his vision for the future.  If he has you in it, and a time-line for certain events that bind you together, the ball is in your court.  What do you want?

 

Remember: in order for love to sustain itself, it needs to flow back and forth.  If you do all of the above also, your relationship should be on track.